Have you created vision boards and lists of what your life is “supposed” to look like? Do you walk around citing affirmations? Is the vision for a better life carried around in your mind, day after day, and you long to be finally free from corporate America? Maybe you have a wish list for that amazing relationship. How about mantras for the debt-free life you’re craving? Congratulations! You are on the right path, but before you stop reading, there are three more steps you need to take before your life can transform your dreams from fantasy island to reality.

It’s hard to believe that just ten years ago I was chained to a corporate job that kept me on my cell 24-7. Sadly, I’m not exaggerating. Vacations, days with my daughter and even relationships were all put at risk because I would not separate myself from the responsibilities of my job. I can blame my boss, or the company, all day long, but the truth is all my self-worth was tied to that job. My co-workers and managers were in awe of my devotion, skill, and sales. Sales trainers would tell the new hires, “If you want to succeed in this company, this is the person you need to model yourself after.” There was a time when I won awards, trips, cash, and more. And I was living a nightmare, not my dreams.

You can have the car, the clothes, the accolades, but if your dreams aren’t being fulfilled, you will feel that you’re living your life without purpose. That purpose will have you searching everywhere. And you will make excuses for your life.

Do you know what it takes to live the life of your dreams?

The first step is to decide what it is you don’t want.

It may sound crazy, but most don’t see the picture of what is wanted, until they see what isn’t working. I call this – clearing the mind clutter. So, here is the first ingredient to your secret sauce. You must determine what you don’t want first, and then immediately begin eliminating them from your life. While it can be scary, it’s also liberating. It’s the first step to showing the Universe that you’re ready to live your dreams and have the life you want, not the one you’ve trained yourself to tolerate.

Second, you need to feel your feelings.

Do you believe the mantras you’re saying? A client walked around her house one-hundred pounds overweight saying, “I am thin, I am my perfect weight.” Her husband asked, “Do you believe what you’re saying?” Her response, “No, not really.” This is what led them to me.  Don’t be the person spouting off affirmations thinking that the words alone will get you where you want to go. Believe what you’re saying before you can speak affirmations into your life.

While affirmations are important, if they are just words with no faith behind them, you are only going to grow increasingly frustrated, and it could lead you to giving up on your dreams altogether. Before that happens, schedule some time with me. Together we can get you in a place where you believe what you’re saying, and where affirmations will help you achieve your dreams, but you need to know how to apply them effectively to your life.

The third step is to use this method – Ask, Listen, Obey.

Everyone is a co-creators with God. When you are negative, you create negativity. Being positive, creates positivity. If you are up and down and all over the place, you attract situations and people that leave you feeling up, down, and all over the place. It’s not fiction, it’s true. Don’t believe me, walk into a store and treat everyone in there disrespectfully. See what happens. Then, if you are brave, a few moments later, when different people are in the store, walk back in and treat everyone with love and kindness. Witness their reaction.  Your day-to-day life is no different. Of course, there are some exceptions. There are those people in the world who are just rude, but that’s for another blog.

As a co-creator, if you want a different life, you must practice this on a daily basis. Get quiet. Ask God, “What is my next step to accomplish (fill in the blank)?” Listen. You can also do what I call “active listening” which is journaling or free writing. Write whatever comes to you. Then, pray on it. (Prayer is a form of listening.) Third, if you are guided to call an old friend or wait to make a purchase, for example, then by all means, follow what you’ve been told. In prayer, time is of the essence. Don’t hesitate.

Please share it with your friends, and if you know of anyone who could benefit from my service, please let them know that I am here to serve them.

So much love,